If the title wasn’t enough of an indication of what this blog is about, let me make it clearer: it’s okay to have off days and it's okay to feel 'off'.
Really. You don’t have to wake up every morning bursting with motivation or sprinkle glitter on every moment of your life. Some days, you might not feel like doing much at all, and that’s perfectly okay, too.
We often hear messages about “positive vibes only,” but as a gentle reminder: you don’t have to force yourself to feel okay when you’re not. Your feelings don’t need to be fixed or polished to be valid.
It’s okay to rest. It’s okay to feel flat. And it’s definitely okay to protect your energy, especially from people or situations that don’t truly deserve your full 100%.
🌱 Listen to your body
Your body isn’t just something that carries you through the day; it’s your lifelong companion, and is always sending you signals about what it needs. Sometimes, it whispering “rest" and other times it's screaming at you...
Learning to tune in to those signals is a gift. It might mean letting yourself take an afternoon nap without guilt, cancelling plans when you feel emotionally drained, or choosing a slow walk instead of an intense workout. It could even look like pausing in the middle of a busy day just to take a deep breath.
Listening to your body isn’t lazy or selfish; it’s an act of self-trust. And the more you practise, the easier it becomes to notice what you truly need, rather than what you feel you should do.
🌸 Little ways to see the small wins
On days when you can’t face the big stuff, there’s still room for small kindnesses towards yourself. Try not to beat yourself up — your brain is powerful, and it listens closely to what you tell it. When you speak harshly to yourself, your brain starts to believe it.
✨ I know it’s easier said than done, but try noticing the little wins. Give yourself a pat on the back for the everyday things. You got out of bed this morning? Well done, you. You managed to brush your teeth? Gold star.
✨ It might sound strange at first, but positive thoughts can really spark gentle, positive energy. And if it’s not something you want to try today, that’s completely okay too.
✨ Create tiny pockets of joy: Light your favourite candle, put on music that feels like a hug, or read a page from a book that makes you feel safe.
✨ Plan gentle things to look forward to: A Sunday walk, a catch-up with a friend next week, or a cosy evening with your favourite series. Even small plans on the horizon can help lift the heaviness.
🌻 Lean into what lifts you up
Sometimes, finding something, or someone, that sparks a little light makes the darker days easier to bear. Whether it’s journaling your thoughts, baking a new recipe, tending to a plant, or even starting a small creative project, these gentle hobbies aren’t about being productive. They’re about giving your mind and heart a safe place to land.
And remember, you don’t have to do it alone. Share your heart with someone you trust. Make plans to see your favourite people every so often, even if it’s just for a quiet coffee. These connections matter more than you might realise.
🌿 Be selfish for your peace of mind
Sometimes, being “selfish” isn’t about ignoring others; it’s about putting your own mental well-being first so you can actually show up as your best self later. It might mean saying no to plans when you’re burnt out, switching off your phone for the evening, or choosing a quiet night in over forcing yourself to socialise.
We often feel guilty for prioritising our own needs, but remember: your peace of mind matters. Rest isn’t laziness; it’s essential. And the world won’t fall apart if you step back to breathe. Being selfish in these moments isn’t about neglecting anyone else, it’s about honouring yourself.
Small, gentle acts of self-preservation can help you recharge, refocus, and remind yourself that it truly is ok not to be ok all the time.
At the end of the day, lovely, you don’t have to be perfect. You don’t even have to be “okay” all the time. What matters is that you keep going, at your own pace, and keep remembering that every feeling, every rest, and every small win is part of your beautiful, messy, very human journey.
✨ Journal Prompt of the Day:
What are three small moments I enjoyed today? And how can I be gentle with myself about one the things that didn’t go perfectly?
With love,
Your Pulse of Potential Family 🫶
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